30 Things Every Girl Should Know by 30 (Part 2)

We brought you part 1 of 30 things every girl should know by 30 yesterday. If you missed it you can find it here . The list is written by Wendelyn Okemini and we love her humorous but enlightening take on life. Please read, share but most importantly,imbibe! 

14. Make, cultivate and keep AT LEAST one good girl friend at all ages in life. I have mine locked in a cage under my bed for safe keeping, you heard Chris Brown’s eloquent pontification on 21st century loyalty. I’m taking no chances! In a similar vein, BE A GOOD FRIEND! Invest in people. Be generous with your time, efforts, prayers. Love. People should know they can trust your word. Be there; keep your promises, keep their secrets. Be honest yet kind; after berating roll up your sleeves and dig that fallen friend out of that hole. Additionally, I think all women should have good, platonic, male friends and vice versa, they help balance disillusionment with the opposite sex.

13. Understand the fundamentals of shopping in Primark. Yes, you read right. In other words, know the rudiments of shopping on sale. The truth is life can be peaks and plateaus; know how to look fly, eat well and thrive on a stringent budget. I can make a banging meal out of thin air, two Knorr cubes and ice water. (Gentlemen form an orderly queue *here*). What I’m saying is your life’s quality should not be held at ransom by Money the Bandit. So, here are some simple tips for Primark shopping. 1) Don’t buy anything above a fiver (for tops) and tenner (for all else); it’s false economy to spend the equivalent of what you would at a ‘regular’ store at a Primark; 2) go early in the morning, on a weekday… before the tourists descend; 3) buy plain; avoid loud, obvious prints for two reasons. Plain fabrics are often cheaper and can go with most of your closet. Finally, plain fabrics are likely to save you the awkwardness of bumping into 12 other people wearing your meticulously prepped outfit, on the tube. #YouNeverHesperrerrit

12. Smile when entering a room. Sometimes before I enter a room, I picture myself as a bemused Disney princess fascinated by the world around me (complete with sound track playing in my head). This bit of foolery always makes me smile, so when I walk in to the room, I look simply delighted to be there; no one realizes it’s the stamp of a left over giggle from the antics of the village people in my head.

11.Go out of your way for others…and then forget it. Never keep score. Do what you want because YOU want to. Life isn’t fair; you may do good and reap evil, do good anyways because it’s never about ‘them’ in the first place. I’ve realized that there is no real reward here for doing good; goodness is its own reward. So if you’re hoping the universe will applaud your efforts, think again.

“The fastest runner doesn’t always win the race, and the strongest warrior doesn’t always win the battle. The wise sometimes go hungry, and the skillful are not necessarily wealthy. And those who are educated don’t always lead successful lives. It is all decided by chance, by being in the right place at the right time.”-Ecclesiastes 9:11

10. Change is one of the minions mentioned above in #30. You control change. If you don’t like how you look, sound, think or act, change it. You will be surprised how much of your world changes with your attitude.

9. Cultivate style and be confident in your choices. Confidence will always be the best brand and the biggest label.

“Fashion is what one wears oneself, what is unfashionable is what other people wear.”-Oscar Wilde.

8.Memories are sufficient. When you hang on to a friendship or relationship well past its Best Before Date, please let it be for something stronger than good memories the present FAILS to recreate yet consistently invokes. Yes, let go. No, you won’t die. #TravelLight

“Hey, remember that person you thought you couldn’t live without? Well look at you, living and shiiii”-Inspirational Quotes.

7. Give as much as you can to those in need. Then give a little more.

6. Be independent. This has gotten a bad rap but largely means do not depend on another human being wholly. Come on, no one genuinely likes a liability. You never know with life, so learn self-sustenance. #CanABrothaBreeve?!

“Don’t be all up on your significant other, all vulturesque like impending doom.”-Commenter on VSB

5. Money is not everything. Do not love things and never use people. It’s classic shoot-self-in-footesque.

4. You are as beautiful as you think. Do not leave the determination of your worth in someone else’s hands.

“Like most good looking women she was never sure of her beauty and had to keep checking on it to make sure it was still there.”

It is.

3. Listen to your parents.

“When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years.”-Mark Twain

2. Take care OF yourself, FOR yourself. Embrace your femininity, never apologise for it and enjoy being a woman. I for instance, love being surrounded by a profusion of pretty but entirely useless objects; no explanation, no justification.*Insert Kanye shrug here*

1. Stand up for yourself, stand up for others. Live for something bigger than you. Don’t ignore injustice. You have a voice, make your life count.

“I not only have the right to stand up for myself, but I have the responsibility. I can’t ask somebody else to stand up for me if I won’t stand up for myself. And once you stand up for yourself, you’d be surprised that people say, “Can I be of help?”-Maya Angelou

You can find more articles from Wendyln on her blog Suitsscandalandthegoodwife